{"id":1227,"date":"2018-03-08T23:26:36","date_gmt":"2018-03-08T23:26:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/docerewellness.com\/?p=1227"},"modified":"2025-02-12T07:29:14","modified_gmt":"2025-02-12T07:29:14","slug":"instead-of-when-what-about-and","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/docerewellness.com\/?p=1227","title":{"rendered":"Instead of \u201cwhen\u201d, what about \u201cand\u201d?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>My family and I just got back from an amazing trip to Argentina. It was so restful and rejuvenating, and I didn\u2019t come back feeling like I needed a vacation following my vacation. Yesterday, I was reflecting on our time away and the joy I experienced, and then remembered that I had experienced some anxiety and panic leading up to our trip.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t know about you, but every time before we go on vacation somewhere hot (i.e., where wearing a bathing suit is involved) a lovely little voice likes to pop into my head and say&#8230;\u201dokay, you\u2019ve got X amount of days\/weeks to lose X amount of pounds. <em>When<\/em> you lose some weight you will be ready to have an amazing time on vacation. <em>When<\/em> you drop 10 pounds you will be happy.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-1346 size-medium\" src=\"https:\/\/docerewellness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/adult-2178904_1920-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" srcset=\"https:\/\/docerewellness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/adult-2178904_1920-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/docerewellness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/adult-2178904_1920-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/docerewellness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/adult-2178904_1920-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/docerewellness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/adult-2178904_1920-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/docerewellness.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/adult-2178904_1920.jpg 1920w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>This voice is certainly not coming from my inner leader, but instead a sneaky saboteur trying to convince me that I will be happier \u201c<em>when<\/em>\u201d. A few days before our trip to Argentina (where we have family and friends who I will see again) the lovely voice was back letting me know that \u201cyou\u2019ll be <em>okay<\/em> this trip, but think about next time <em>when<\/em> you have lost some of your baby weight.\u201d Yep, the voice is good, it\u2019s so positive and optimistic, NOT!<\/p>\n<p>With so many years of experience with this lovely little voice&#8230;I witness myself moving quite quickly from \u201cwhen\u201d to \u201cand\u201d. I love my life, I love me as I am, in this moment AND I will continue to live a healthy lifestyle. If that results in dropping a few pounds, great, but the joy I experience in my life and my love for myself, in this moment, is not dependent on it.<\/p>\n<p>So what\u2019s your \u201c<em>when<\/em>\u201d? When I&#8230;lose 10 pounds, get that promotion, have children, finish this big project at work, move into a larger home&#8230;Whatever it is, what would it be like to feel joy now, in this moment AND commit to goals that are important to you? You might even find that finishing a project or dropping 10 pounds &#8211; that goal that has the \u201cI will be happy when&#8230;\u201d attached to it &#8211; is really not what is most important, you just have it on your \u201cto do\u201d list because you\u2019re supposed to or you think you should.<\/p>\n<p>What if you experienced joy in your life, loved your life and loved who you are, as you are today, in this moment?<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not saying drop your goals, go after them if they are important to you. I\u2019m just throwing out there that experiencing joy and fulfillment is something that is available to you in this moment, if you are willing to let it in. <em>And<\/em> you can have goals and create change in your life.<\/p>\n<p><em>Amanda Delamer is a self-awareness and fulfillment coach<\/em><em>. Amanda coaches and supports people in living healthy, balanced and fulfilled lives. She coaches and honours the whole person \u2013 mind, body and spirit. Her clients experience fulfillment in all parts of their lives \u2013 health, family, relationships, career, and beyond \u2013 and they value and appreciate that all parts of their lives are connected, and that we all have responsibility in and for the world around us. <\/em><em>She lives in Calgary, Alberta, Canada with her husband and three children.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Book in for your complimentary coaching session with Amanda Delamer. Call 403-452-6262. <strong>NEW CLIENT PROMOTION<\/strong> \u2013 4 months of Coaching for the price of 3! Create space for joy, fulfillment and self-awareness!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My family and I just got back from an amazing trip to Argentina. It was so restful and rejuvenating, and I didn\u2019t come back feeling like I needed a vacation following my vacation. 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