So You’re Thinking of Quitting Your Job

So You’re Thinking of Quitting Your Job

By Amanda Delamer, Leadership Coach, MSc, CPCC, PCC

We are faced with circumstances beyond our control every day, both personally and professionally. How we respond to those circumstances has an incredible impact – on us, on those around us, and on our decision making processes. And when facing challenging circumstances at work, it can leave us longing for greener grass somewhere else. 

Sometimes a new environment and a fresh start can be beneficial, and even necessary. Sometimes it can be helpful to stay in it and discover more about ourselves. And sometimes it might be a bit of both. 

Have you ever thought about quitting your job? What were your reasons? For many, the idea of leaving their job has nothing to do with the work itself, but instead, it is due to their feelings and experience with their boss or other colleagues. 

People don’t necessarily quit their jobs, they quit their boss and/or the people they work with. So what if shifting how you are showing up and engaging could result in you not running for the door?

Consider how you are currently approaching relationships and conflict at work with your boss and/or colleagues. How do you approach a difficult conversation? When you are under pressure, what are your natural tendencies? How do others experience you when you are in a challenging situation?

Changing up your approach to challenging conversations and situations can leave you feeling empowered and energized, now, even at your current job, and setting you up for even greater success if you do decide to move on. 

The Approach: Fight.  If you can’t beat ‘em, join them. I think it is safe to say we may have all used this approach at some point in our lives, even at work. Think of a time when you were treated in a way that left you fuming, hurt, confused, frustrated, and your response came from a place of “enough!” Your approach – maybe you decided to stick it to them, gave them a taste of their own medicine, lashed out, or even decided to resign yourself and just ignore them. You probably, to some extent, responded in a way that mimicked that exact thing that drives you crazy about how they treat you. It leaves you feeling hungover, wishing you would have handled a situation differently. 

The Approach: Flight. Retreat, rehash, repeat. We’ve all been there. Laying awake at 2 am beating ourselves up that we let someone talk to us or treat us that way. Rehashing a conversation you had at work, wishing you would have stood up for yourself, spoke your mind, had a voice, been honest about how you are feeling… Argh, I wish I would have said ____. This approach can leave you feeling exhausted and consumed by work. 

Approach: Lead. Draw on your courage within and lead. Think of a conversation you recently had, where you disagreed or spoke up about something that did not feel right for you. Maybe it was a conversation with someone at work, or maybe with your partner or friend. When we lead, all parties walked away with dignity. When you lead at work, you can leave at the end of the day feeling good about how you showed up, how you treated others, you shared your thoughts and ideas, you are good. And you have energy left to be present with the people you love and achieve personal goals that bring you joy. 

We all have it in us to take a breath, show up, and lead. Leaders are not leaders because of a title they possess, but because of how they show up and the impact they have on the world around them. How you lead impacts your environment. It has an impact on your workplace culture. It has an impact on both your personal and professional relationships. It has an impact on your family and friends. It has an impact on how you experience joy in your life. Take responsibility and lead. 

Don’t let challenges at work take the lead. Book in for a coaching consult with Amanda today!

Amanda Delamer is a Leadership and Life Coach. Amanda coaches and supports people in living healthy, balanced, and joyful lives, with a focus on leadership, self-awareness, and fulfillment.  She coaches and honours the whole person – mind, body, and spirit. Her clients experience fulfillment in all parts of their lives – health, family, relationships, career, and beyond – and they value and appreciate that all parts of their lives are connected, and we all have a responsibility in and for the world around us. She lives in Calgary, Alberta, Canada with her husband and three children.

When You Can’t Stop Bringing Work Home with You

When You Can’t Stop Bringing Work Home with You

By Amanda Delamer, Leadership & Life Coach, MSc, CPCC, PCC

So Covid happened, is happening, and isn’t going anywhere anytime soon.

I don’t know about you, but for me, this thing called work/life balance, that I have been so intentional about achieving over the years, has morphed into a whole other creature to contend with in these times. Even though the kids are back at school, it seems that my world will be in this “hybrid” state moving forward. Sometimes I’m at the office and the kids are at school, sometimes I’m at home working virtually with one kid home in quarantine because a classmate tested positive, and sometimes I’m at home sick working virtually with one or all of my kids home sick from school. Just like at IKEA, the possibilities are endless!

We are creating “normal” as we go. Yes, we are learning to be more resilient. We are learning to be more agile, more flexible and more adaptable. We are learning how to be more a lot of things, and, right now, It. Is. Hard.

I think about clients talking to me about a co-worker they can’t seem to get along and work with, a boss that speaks to them in a disrespectful manner, an employee that isn’t following through on commitments, board meetings that are overpowered by one colleague, an endless list of to do’s, and the list goes on.

I am working with clients who are not only working through all of the challenges above, but they are also dealing with the fact that sometimes they are physically in the office, and sometimes they are dealing with these everyday challenges via Zoom.

The opportunity to have an important conversation or address a challenge is not happening naturally and casually while crossing paths at the office or when the timing is “right”. They are now more likely to be conversations that have to be formally scheduled in as an appointment via phone or Zoom. Just like that, that “little thing” can feel like it has morphed into this “big thing” that needs to be addressed.

And some of those “big things” conversations might not be happening at all.

Some of my new clients share that they are lying awake in the middle of the night processing everything that is on their mind. They are finding it hard to be present and enjoy time with their families because they are distracted with work. They are giving themselves pep talks on Sunday night as to how this week they are just going to ignore a person or situation, or just not take things so personally. Their minds are spinning.

For a lot of my clients, they share that “Everything in my personal life is great, but my professional life and work, argh, there is this co-worker who ___, or my boss just won’t ____, or if I just had more time, or, things will feel better when I get that promotion/that colleague is transferred to another department. A long list and a lot of I will be happy when.

I love supporting my clients to feel great in both their personal and professional lives, now. Not when. The truth is, “when” may not ever happen. Maybe things will feel better when meetings aren’t via Zoom. Maybe your boss will start communicating with you better when you are both working back in

the office and not communicating via email. But what if you felt great at work now? What if you left work at work, even when you’re working at home?

It will take energy, and effort and time on your part to process and discover how to achieve this. AND, it will leave you feeling empowered, confident and you will experience what balance looks and feels like, for you and your family.

Don’t wait until the new year to try something different! Start achieving more work/life balance now!

Book in for a complimentary coaching session with me!

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Amanda Delamer is a Leadership and Life Coach. Amanda coaches and supports people in living healthy, balanced, and joyful lives, with a focus on self-awareness and fulfillment. She coaches and honors the whole person – mind, body, and spirit. Her clients experience fulfillment in all parts of their lives – health, family, relationships, career, and beyond – and they value and appreciate that all parts of their lives are connected, and we all have a responsibility in and for the world around us. She lives in Calgary, Alberta, Canada with her husband and three children.

Health Tip of the Season – Contrast Showers

Health Tip of the Season – Contrast Showers

By Dr. Michelle Hagel, ND

With winter approaching somewhat abruptly, I often find myself getting chilled. To help with cold tolerance, temperature regulation, and circulation I love doing contrast showers.

What does this mean? Hot and cold showers; like when you were a kid and you were in the hot tub then jumped in the snow.

I know a cold shower doesn’t seem like the most appealing while temperatures are plummeting. This technique can really help you regulate your body temperature and become more tolerant of extreme temperatures.

Start with 30 seconds hot water, then 10 seconds as cold as you can tolerate. Do 5 cycles of alternating between the two and always finish on cold. This allows our pores to close and you warm yourself off by ‘dry brushing’ off with your cozy towel. These times can be altered with that important 3:1 ratio being follow and always ending on cold.

I suggest only doing this in a morning shower as it is quite invigorating! You will notice your temperature regulation and circulation improving, lymphatic system operating better, some people even find it stress-reducing. Hope you enjoy them as much as I do.

Calming the Nervous System

Calming the Nervous System

By Dr. Michelle Hagel ND 

Right now we are in a time of tremendous uncertainty, this causes increased worry and stress as we try to plan and anticipate the future. Unfortunately, I do not have a magic solution to make all the stresses go away affecting our daily lives. However, what I can do is suggest support to change the way you react to situations. For example, when we are stressed, we deplete various nutrients in our system, by ensuring these nutrients like vitamin b are topped up we are able to respond in a much easier and calmer manner. There are also many other strategies like acupuncture and herbal therapies to calm our response and replenish the nervous system. So the more stress we have it acts as a cascade to make us more responsive to stress and worry.

Let us help you stop this cycle and manage this uncertain time in a calm and level-headed manner. Call into the clinic to book a consultation we can recommend injection, acupuncture, or herbal therapies to navigate your individual case.

Remember to always breathe. I recommend a box breathing strategy inhale 4 seconds, hold 4 seconds, exhale 4 seconds, hold 4 seconds, and repeat for several cycles.

Dr. Hagel utilizes a wide range of treatment options best suited for each individual. She treats a broad spectrum of health concerns including digestive health, hormonal imbalances, thyroid disruption, mental health, and infertility. She is a certified Naturopathic Doula and is licensed and in good standing with the Canadian Association of Naturopathic Doctors and the College of Naturopathic Doctors of Alberta. If you want to connect and book an appointment with Dr. Hagel Click HERE and she would be happy to work with you.

Let the Summer Begin!

Let the Summer Begin!

by Dr. Alisha Rawji ND.

It has been a roller coaster of a year so far, but the summer has finally arrived, and that’s definitely something to celebrate!

Life, as we know it, has been slowly inching back to something resembling normalcy – many businesses are starting to open up again, some sporting events are resuming, as well as a large number of the outdoor activities are ready to start for the season. With that, many people end up forgoing their healthy diets and veer towards summer indulgences which include junk food, delicious sugary treats, and more than likely, higher alcohol consumption. Of course, summer is meant for BBQs, campouts and late-night patio hangouts with your best friends and family.

It’s understandable to want to savour the sunshine and soak up every ounce of the summer, but as you do this, it’s also important to stay healthy and do what you can to help your body – especially your liver – during this time. These are some of the ways you can take care of yourself, while you’re enjoying all the fun events in which the next few months have in store:

Limit your alcohol consumption – alcohol can be quite taxing on the liver, especially when consumed in large amounts.  Between every drink, try to add a full 8oz glass or water in between, so that you’re giving your system some time to recover. Adding lemon to water, can also help the liver detoxification process a little bit more as well.  I’ve also added some options for non-alcoholic summer drinks on our website, which are wonderful options for those who want to be a part of these social gatherings, but who also want to limit or avoid alcohol all together.

Adding B-vitamins can help in so many ways. When alcohol breaks down, it forms compounds called aldehydes. Aldehyde build-up in high amounts in the bloodstream which can be toxic to the liver in excess. When it builds up too much, it can cause many of the typical hangover symptoms that most already know. B-vitamins can greatly reduce aldehyde build up, and is critical in helping quell hangover symptoms. They are also wonderful in providing energy, balancing mood and anxiety, and improving sleep.

Gout: With BBQs and beer, gout is most predominantly experienced in the summer months because of this. As well as dehydration which is also very common in the summer, due to the heat, it is also something that can flare up tremendously if you’re not careful. To avoid this, continue to hydrate, and limit the amount of red meat you consume, as well as heavy alcohol drinks such as beer and lagers. Try to eat more cherries, and tart cherry juice whenever possible, as this can help with gout as well.

Liver supportive treatments offered:

Love Your Liver Detox IV – This is a wonderful mix of hydration and liver supportive vitamins and such as B-vitamins, amino acids, trace minerals, and a liver detoxifier called glutathione. Glutathione is also known as the ‘mother of all antioxidants’ – and it truly is. It is vital for detoxifying (turning over toxic agents into non-toxic forms) in the body.

Injections – Love Your Liver glutathione injection: Smaller amount of glutathione, done as an injection, to give your body a constant boost of this absolutely vital antioxidant. B-vitamin injections are also available, and very well received. High dose B-complexes, as well as adrenal/cortisol (stress relieving) injections are also wonderful ways to replenish.

Diet and lifestyle – eating clean foods, and foods that have a low inflammatory response, is another way to help keep the body functioning adequately, and will create less burden to the liver. There are also a lot of recipes and simple substitutions in which you can make, so that you can still have delicious and clean foods…that you’ll actually enjoy!

Check out our website for additional information about treatment offerings and promotions such as IV/injection vitamin therapies, detoxification support, acupuncture and many others! As well, you can check out previous articles, blogs, videos, podcasts, recipes and more, to help you feeling at your best! Have a happy and healthy summer!

Coaching or Therapy – Which one is right for me?

Coaching or Therapy – Which one is right for me?

Amanda Delamer MSc, CPCC, PCC, Life & Leadership Coach and Susan Tran MC, Registered Provisional Psychologist

A common question that many ponder is “what would be better for me, working with a Coach or a Psychologist?” And what is the difference?

As fellow practitioners at Docere Wellness Centre, we thought we would offer you a few things to consider as you explore which practitioner to work with.

While Coaches and Psychologists may use some similar techniques or approaches, we also want to honour the unique and important differences that exist in these complementary professions.

What is Coaching?

Coaching is partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. Coaching honours the client as the expert in their life and believes that every client is creative, resourceful and whole. Coaches partner with clients to help them move forward in a supported and truly meaningful way, all according to the client’s agenda. Coaches do not assess or develop treatment plans, but ask thought-provoking questions in support of clients living intentionally and making resonant choices.

When identifying a Coach to work with, do pay attention to credentials and training. Membership with a coaching body, for example the International Coach Federation (ICF), is not the same as holding a credential from the ICF. A certified Coach will have achieved their training via an approved and accredited body, and a credential from the ICF (I.e., ACC, PCC or MCC) signifies a Coach’s completion and pursuit of rigorous education and practice requirements that provide unquestioned legitimacy to their commitment to excellence in coaching.

What is Psychotherapy?

Psychotherapy (aka talk-therapy, counselling, psychological services) involves working with a trained mental health professional who has, at minimum, a Master’s level degree in psychology, psychiatry, social work, or related field. Services provided by licensed psychologists are regulated by the College of Alberta Psychologists, meaning that they must fulfill several academic and training requirements prior to being licensed to practice, abide by a code of ethics, and meet standards of practices set forth by the College.

Psychologists can assess, diagnose, and treat mental health problems, such as anxiety, depression, trauma, stress, and sleep-related disorders. Treatment approaches are selected using evidence-based practice. Psychologists develop a therapeutic alliance with clients by showing empathy, acceptance, and positive regard while challenging maladaptive thinking and behavioural patterns that impair functioning. Finally, the majority of health care benefit packages provide coverage for psychological/counselling services.

Readiness for Change

If you find that you are eager to get going, to process and explore, working with a Coach may be the right fit. You do not need to be crystal clear on what your goals are or what it is that you want to change, but you have a knowing that you do not want to continue as is and are ready to put in the work, to be intentional about exploring something different. You’re curious.  Working with a Coach does require a degree of readiness for change – a readiness to put in the work and be intentional.You  are in the drivers seat and we work co-actively together.

If you are in a place where you are finding it hard to function, get out of bed, or be engaged in the day to day, it may be a better fit to work with a Psychologist. The assessment and approach to your treatment plan is based on your individual or couple’s goals and needs in a collaborative process. Working with a Psychologist can support you in your level of readiness for change.

You are here, where is here?

Thinking about where you are in your life in this moment in time can be helpful in deciding whether working with a Coach or Psychologist is right for you. Here are some examples that may ring true for you.

Example reasons to work with a Coach include, but are not limited to:

  • Feeling stuck, wanting for something to change;
  • Feeling overwhelmed and looking for support to process thoughts and ideas;
  • Increasing self-awareness or awareness of your impact;
  • Seeking clarity about goals and purpose;
  • Achieving health and wellness goals;
  • Setting boundaries to achieve greater life/work balance;
  • Exploring your values and using them to guide your decision making;
  • Getting unstuck by experimenting with different perspectives;
  • Strengthening workplace and/or personal relationships;
  • Conflict resolution;
  • Career transition;
  • Thriving in parenthood;
  • Self-love and acceptance;
  • Bridging the gap between where you are now and where you aspire to be;
  • Living a more fulfilling life; and/or,
  • Letting go of who you think you should be and embracing who you are

Example reasons you might work with a psychologist/therapist include, but are not limited to:

  • Feeling overwhelmed and helpless to change some of your unhelpful thinking, behavioural, or relational patterns despite trying and getting help from family and friends;
  • Feeling dissatisfied with who you are, how you are living, and your purpose in life;
  • Struggling to carry out daily activities including parenting, self-care, or work tasks;
  • Excessive worrying , expecting the worst, and/or feeling hopeless about the future;
  • Losing pleasure or interest in activities and/or relationships;
  • Past traumas interfering with current functioning in relationships across settings;
  • Struggling to express yourself accurately and get your  needs met in relationships; and/or,
  • Seeing that your actions are harming yourself and/or others, including addictions or substance use, and wanting to turn things around.

Connection and Goodness of Fit

The relationship between practitioner and patient/client is key in order for to support you in your optimal health and fulfillment. Connection and fit is not only beneficial but necessary to create a safe environment where trust, courage, acceptance, awareness and opportunities for growth exist.

And sometimes you just “click”. Be sure to trust yourself and your intuition.

We make it easy for you to get to know us and our professions first – we offer complimentary sessions or phone consultations to help you determine fit and connection. There is no cost or obligation to continue, just an opportunity for you to explore how coaching and psychotherapy can support you in living a fulfilled life and address any questions you may have about the process

Get to know us and our areas of expertise!

The distinction between coaching and therapy is not black and white.

We hope the above gave you an idea of each profession, and provoked further thought about where you are in your life and the kind of support you are seeking.

Whether you choose to work with a Coach or Psychologist, or both, we are confident that you will enjoy a valuable experience that will honour where you are in your life. Both practitioners and professions want for you to live happy, healthy and fulfilling lives, and are ready to support you where you are at.

Book in with Susan and Amanda today!

Call 403-452-6262or book in on-line at www.docerewellness.