by Dr. Alisha Rawji ND.
It has been a roller coaster of a year so far, but the summer has finally arrived, and that’s definitely something to celebrate!
Life, as we know it, has been slowly inching back to something resembling normalcy – many businesses are starting to open up again, some sporting events are resuming, as well as a large number of the outdoor activities are ready to start for the season. With that, many people end up forgoing their healthy diets and veer towards summer indulgences which include junk food, delicious sugary treats, and more than likely, higher alcohol consumption. Of course, summer is meant for BBQs, campouts and late-night patio hangouts with your best friends and family.
It’s understandable to want to savour the sunshine and soak up every ounce of the summer, but as you do this, it’s also important to stay healthy and do what you can to help your body – especially your liver – during this time. These are some of the ways you can take care of yourself, while you’re enjoying all the fun events in which the next few months have in store:
Limit your alcohol consumption – alcohol can be quite taxing on the liver, especially when consumed in large amounts. Between every drink, try to add a full 8oz glass or water in between, so that you’re giving your system some time to recover. Adding lemon to water, can also help the liver detoxification process a little bit more as well. I’ve also added some options for non-alcoholic summer drinks on our website, which are wonderful options for those who want to be a part of these social gatherings, but who also want to limit or avoid alcohol all together.
Adding B-vitamins can help in so many ways. When alcohol breaks down, it forms compounds called aldehydes. Aldehyde build-up in high amounts in the bloodstream which can be toxic to the liver in excess. When it builds up too much, it can cause many of the typical hangover symptoms that most already know. B-vitamins can greatly reduce aldehyde build up, and is critical in helping quell hangover symptoms. They are also wonderful in providing energy, balancing mood and anxiety, and improving sleep.
Gout: With BBQs and beer, gout is most predominantly experienced in the summer months because of this. As well as dehydration which is also very common in the summer, due to the heat, it is also something that can flare up tremendously if you’re not careful. To avoid this, continue to hydrate, and limit the amount of red meat you consume, as well as heavy alcohol drinks such as beer and lagers. Try to eat more cherries, and tart cherry juice whenever possible, as this can help with gout as well.
Liver supportive treatments offered:
Love Your Liver Detox IV – This is a wonderful mix of hydration and liver supportive vitamins and such as B-vitamins, amino acids, trace minerals, and a liver detoxifier called glutathione. Glutathione is also known as the ‘mother of all antioxidants’ – and it truly is. It is vital for detoxifying (turning over toxic agents into non-toxic forms) in the body.
Injections – Love Your Liver glutathione injection: Smaller amount of glutathione, done as an injection, to give your body a constant boost of this absolutely vital antioxidant. B-vitamin injections are also available, and very well received. High dose B-complexes, as well as adrenal/cortisol (stress relieving) injections are also wonderful ways to replenish.
Diet and lifestyle – eating clean foods, and foods that have a low inflammatory response, is another way to help keep the body functioning adequately, and will create less burden to the liver. There are also a lot of recipes and simple substitutions in which you can make, so that you can still have delicious and clean foods…that you’ll actually enjoy!
Check out our website for additional information about treatment offerings and promotions such as IV/injection vitamin therapies, detoxification support, acupuncture and many others! As well, you can check out previous articles, blogs, videos, podcasts, recipes and more, to help you feeling at your best! Have a happy and healthy summer!
Amanda Delamer MSc, CPCC, PCC, Life & Leadership Coach and Susan Tran MC, Registered Provisional Psychologist
A common question that many ponder is “what would be better for me, working with a Coach or a Psychologist?” And what is the difference?
As fellow practitioners at Docere Wellness Centre, we thought we would offer you a few things to consider as you explore which practitioner to work with.
While Coaches and Psychologists may use some similar techniques or approaches, we also want to honour the unique and important differences that exist in these complementary professions.
What is Coaching?
Coaching is partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. Coaching honours the client as the expert in their life and believes that every client is creative, resourceful and whole. Coaches partner with clients to help them move forward in a supported and truly meaningful way, all according to the client’s agenda. Coaches do not assess or develop treatment plans, but ask thought-provoking questions in support of clients living intentionally and making resonant choices.
When identifying a Coach to work with, do pay attention to credentials and training. Membership with a coaching body, for example the International Coach Federation (ICF), is not the same as holding a credential from the ICF. A certified Coach will have achieved their training via an approved and accredited body, and a credential from the ICF (I.e., ACC, PCC or MCC) signifies a Coach’s completion and pursuit of rigorous education and practice requirements that provide unquestioned legitimacy to their commitment to excellence in coaching.
What is Psychotherapy?
Psychotherapy (aka talk-therapy, counselling, psychological services) involves working with a trained mental health professional who has, at minimum, a Master’s level degree in psychology, psychiatry, social work, or related field. Services provided by licensed psychologists are regulated by the College of Alberta Psychologists, meaning that they must fulfill several academic and training requirements prior to being licensed to practice, abide by a code of ethics, and meet standards of practices set forth by the College.
Psychologists can assess, diagnose, and treat mental health problems, such as anxiety, depression, trauma, stress, and sleep-related disorders. Treatment approaches are selected using evidence-based practice. Psychologists develop a therapeutic alliance with clients by showing empathy, acceptance, and positive regard while challenging maladaptive thinking and behavioural patterns that impair functioning. Finally, the majority of health care benefit packages provide coverage for psychological/counselling services.
Readiness for Change
If you find that you are eager to get going, to process and explore, working with a Coach may be the right fit. You do not need to be crystal clear on what your goals are or what it is that you want to change, but you have a knowing that you do not want to continue as is and are ready to put in the work, to be intentional about exploring something different. You’re curious. Working with a Coach does require a degree of readiness for change – a readiness to put in the work and be intentional.You are in the drivers seat and we work co-actively together.
If you are in a place where you are finding it hard to function, get out of bed, or be engaged in the day to day, it may be a better fit to work with a Psychologist. The assessment and approach to your treatment plan is based on your individual or couple’s goals and needs in a collaborative process. Working with a Psychologist can support you in your level of readiness for change.
You are here, where is here?
Thinking about where you are in your life in this moment in time can be helpful in deciding whether working with a Coach or Psychologist is right for you. Here are some examples that may ring true for you.
Example reasons to work with a Coach include, but are not limited to:
- Feeling stuck, wanting for something to change;
- Feeling overwhelmed and looking for support to process thoughts and ideas;
- Increasing self-awareness or awareness of your impact;
- Seeking clarity about goals and purpose;
- Achieving health and wellness goals;
- Setting boundaries to achieve greater life/work balance;
- Exploring your values and using them to guide your decision making;
- Getting unstuck by experimenting with different perspectives;
- Strengthening workplace and/or personal relationships;
- Self-love and acceptance;
- Bridging the gap between where you are now and where you aspire to be;
- Living a more fulfilling life; and/or,
- Letting go of who you think you should be and embracing who you are
Example reasons you might work with a psychologist/therapist include, but are not limited to:
- Feeling overwhelmed and helpless to change some of your unhelpful thinking, behavioural, or relational patterns despite trying and getting help from family and friends;
- Feeling dissatisfied with who you are, how you are living, and your purpose in life;
- Struggling to carry out daily activities including parenting, self-care, or work tasks;
- Excessive worrying , expecting the worst, and/or feeling hopeless about the future;
- Losing pleasure or interest in activities and/or relationships;
- Past traumas interfering with current functioning in relationships across settings;
- Struggling to express yourself accurately and get your needs met in relationships; and/or,
- Seeing that your actions are harming yourself and/or others, including addictions or substance use, and wanting to turn things around.
Connection and Goodness of Fit
The relationship between practitioner and patient/client is key in order for to support you in your optimal health and fulfillment. Connection and fit is not only beneficial but necessary to create a safe environment where trust, courage, acceptance, awareness and opportunities for growth exist.
And sometimes you just “click”. Be sure to trust yourself and your intuition.
We make it easy for you to get to know us and our professions first – we offer complimentary sessions or phone consultations to help you determine fit and connection. There is no cost or obligation to continue, just an opportunity for you to explore how coaching and psychotherapy can support you in living a fulfilled life and address any questions you may have about the process
Get to know us and our areas of expertise!
The distinction between coaching and therapy is not black and white.
We hope the above gave you an idea of each profession, and provoked further thought about where you are in your life and the kind of support you are seeking.
Whether you choose to work with a Coach or Psychologist, or both, we are confident that you will enjoy a valuable experience that will honour where you are in your life. Both practitioners and professions want for you to live happy, healthy and fulfilling lives, and are ready to support you where you are at.
Book in with Susan and Amanda today!
Call 403-452-6262or book in on-line at www.docerewellness.
Have you ever heard of vitamin D being referred to as the ‘sunshine vitamin?’ That’s because It absolutely is! Starting first with the skin, we use UVB rays from the sun to synthesize the majority of vitamin D that we need. With the help of the liver and the kidneys, it gets converted into D3, which is the primary, and most active form of the vitamin that is used in the body.
Vitamin D3 plays many essential roles; chief among them is the regulation and balance of calcium, primarily for the formation and maintenance of healthy bones.
However, vitamin D plays a wider role outside of bone health that you may not know such as:
- Gastrointestinal health: Vitamin D can be protective in many gastrointestinal disorders especially with respect to conditions related to IBD (Irritable Bowel Disorders). Crones and Colitis, and even irritable bowel disease and celiac disease and gluten issues. Vitamin D3 is said to be protective to the lumen (or walls) of the small and large intestine and is really important not only to help treat, but also can be used as a defence for lowering susceptibility of flare-ups in the future, or in disease progression.
- Hormone and endocrine functions: Vitamin D3 can also play a major role in hormone regulation and functioning. Since vitamin D is a fat-soluble vitamin, it is also very important in the regulation of many steroid hormones. Because of this, it can play a role in helping with insulin resistance, fat metabolism, and blood sugar regulation. It can also be very helpful in benefiting issues such as weight gain, obesity, hormone imbalances, cardiovascular disease, and even some respiratory conditions as well.
- Mental Health: Vitamin D, has been known to play a crucial role in mental health, especially when coupled with other fats such as Omega 3 for example. Adequate intake, or supplementation, of vitamin D, can greatly improve symptoms of anxiety and depression especially when taken in the winter months when many people experience seasonal affective disorder (SAD) due to the lack of sunlight during these months..
- SKIN ISSUE: Many skin issues, are at least partly, due to inflammatory conditions either in the gut or somewhere else in the system. Vitamin D can play a major role to aid in inflammatory conditions, and in certain instances allergic signs and syndromes as well.
- Immunity: Vitamin D3 plays an important and vital role, in the immune system as it helps build immune factors in the bloodstream, which play a role in aiding with fighting infections. The technical term for these chemical messengers is called cytokines. These messengers are always working hard for your immune system to build the strength of these immune fighters and allows the systems in your body to function more effectively.
- Musculoskeletal: Vitamin D3, plays a major role in the movement of calcium into the bones, as well as plays a role in the function of growth hormone. Maintaining adequate vitamin D3, and calcium status (often coupled with vitamin K2) at times as well, will not only ensure healthy and strong bone formation, but it also, will be preventative to lower chances of developing, or progressing symptoms like Osteoarthritis, Rheumatoid arthritis, and many other musculoskeletal issues. This could include those such as inflammation in the joints, stress fractures, chronic pain, fibromyalgia and others.
There are also dietary sources of vitamin D as well which can be consumed as well. Foods that contain high amounts of vitamin D3 typically are fish, mushrooms, pork and beef. Many juices and milk products in Canada are also fortified with vitamin D, which means that it has manually been added to these foods, to increase vitamin D sources for those who consume them.
As well, you may often need to increase your intake of vitamin D3, with a good quality supplement or D drop. This is especially true in Canada, as we are far north of the equator and are likely not getting the proper UVB rays necessary to produce vitamin D3 to adequate levels.
So, as the sun is shining, make sure to get outside as much as possible. Typically, 20-30 minutes of direct midday sunlight each day is a great start, to help get a very healthy dose of vitamin D.
Go for a walk, ride your bike or sit outside – and soak in all that glorious sunshine vitamin! J
Hello! I’d like to introduce myself as Docere’s new provisional psychologist. As part of my intro blog, I thought it’d be useful to share my approach when working with psychotherapy clients. I’m very excited to serve Docere’s clients who may be struggling with common issues like anxiety, depression, sleep problems, stress, self-esteem, grief, loss, and relationship dynamics. My training includes evidence-based practice with an emphasis on building the therapeutic alliance.
I am keenly aware that each of you is unique regarding your current and historical
- physical health, physiology, genetics (biology)
- beliefs, thoughts, emotions, behaviours (psychology)
- upbringing, culture, family and relationship dynamics (social)
- meaning, connection, awareness (spiritual)
…and will meet you where you’re at.
Humanistic & strength-based
Along with uniqueness, I believe in people’s inherent goodness, subjective experience, and motivation towards fulfillment. I emphasize the importance of accessing your strengths and resources to help you fulfill your potential and growth-needs, rather than focusing on dysfunctions and pathology. How refreshing, eh?
Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) & rational emotive behavioural therapy (REBT)
Speaking of subjective experience, our beliefs tend to influence our thoughts, behaviours, and emotions; vice versa (bi-directional relationship), which is the theory behind the widely-supported CBT model.
Using CBT and REBT techniques, I work with you to acknowledge and address some core beliefs, thinking, and behavioural patterns that may be keeping you feeling ‘emotionally stuck’ and from fulfilling your needs.
by Dr. Alisha Rawji ND.
Hi everyone, I hope you’re all keeping well and staying safe during these unprecedented times.
As most of us have now transitioned into our new shared reality of staying home, socially distancing, and forgoing our regular day-to-day-lives, I thought it might be useful to share some tips and traits that, I hope can help you get through it a little easier – while staying healthy, safe, and a little more relaxed…and maybe even having a little more fun along the way!
First let’s get the nitty gritty out of the way:
I would like to re-iterate and remind everyone about the recommendations from the CDC (Centre for Disease Control) about how to stay safe during these times. I can’t express how important they are as the most crucial line of defense in keeping us all safe – and here’s why:
1-Wash your hands with soap and water, for at least 20-30 seconds. This is absolutely one of the most critical things we can do to protect ourselves and everyone around us, why?? Because bacteria and viruses actually get broken up by lipid containing agents (such as soap), and therefore, cannot survive. Hand sanitizers (with at least 60% alcohol) also work well, but not as well as handwashing, and therefore should only be used if/when handwashing isn’t possible.
A good little tip is to sing a song while washing your hands (you may need to sing them once or twice to make it work for a full 20-30seconds) but in doing so, makes this mundane and very repetitive task seem a lot more fun – especially for your little ones! Some popular songs that work well are: happy birthday, row-row-row your boat, ABC/Alphabet song…or you can be creative and use whatever chorus or lyrics you like – from any of your fav songs!
2-You’ve probably heard it being said many times before, not to touch your face, but why?? This is because, viruses and bacteria don’t usually enter our bodies through the skin but actually through mucous membranes – and those are mostly found on the face. Viruses enter through open areas such as our eyes, nose, ears, and mouth. Our hands act like a vector or a transport system to get them there, which is why avoiding touching your face is also such a vital defense.
3-Social distancing and staying home as much as we can– as social beings by nature, this is something that I know can be the most difficult thing to do right now but is also very important. Why do we have to stand at least 2 meters away from each other? Another way that viruses (and also bacteria) can spread is through respiratory droplets, i.e. from someone who coughs or sneezes, or even talks too close to one another – whether they’re showing symptoms or not.
Keeping one’s distance does greatly reduce the rate of spread and there is very widespread research out there, denoting this. Comparing how and when countries started implementing social distancing measures, and the slowing of the spread (or ‘flattening the curve’), can be seen not only throughout this pandemic, but from previous ones in history. This can make us feel a little better about the situation when we’re feeling sad or frustrated by it all. I always come back to the fact that collectively, we care enough about one other by social distancing, as well as by helping the health care system to catch up, and also evading hospitals from possible overwhelm.
What else can we do stay healthy??
The first thing I would like to emphasize, is to remember that like most things: this too shall pass. It’s SO easy to feel stuck or overwhelmed by any situation, but also remember that it will, in its own time, get better. Extensive work is being done in all fields and disciplines to help curve this, so for now, continue to do whatever you can to say stay safe: connect with the people you love, take care of each other and remember that it’s best to be alert not anxious.
In the meantime, here are some things you can do to help improve your health right now:
- Sleep: adequate sleep (7-8hrs/night) resets our circadian rhythms, keeps our body alert, and gets our protective immunity fighters (cytokines) to work in full force…this in turn creates a stronger immune system overall. Therefore, keep up with a daily routine, i.e. sleep at the same time, and wake up at the same time in the morning, to maintain overall health and balance.
2.Stress management: when our bodies are overly stressed out, the adrenal glands release cortisol (stress hormone) in excess. When cortisol is chronically high, it can severely deplete our immune system. This is why it is so important to practice healthy coping mechanisms and help lower our stress levels overall. Keeping up with practices like yoga, meditation, tai chi or any other stress-lowering activities are so key in managing stress levels, and improving our overall health and wellness. Another benefit, is that lowering our cortisol will improve melatonin release at night when we want to finally need to shut down, which also helps sleep quality.
3.Hydrate and eat well – generally speaking, this will always help support our bodies, in any situation, of stress that we’re faced with. Continue to eat foods with high amounts of proteins, healthy fats, fruits, vegetables, and fermented foods, if possible. The reason being, proteins and fats will not only help provide satiety (feeling of fullness), it will also help us maintain blood sugar levels, and keep us focused and alert. Eliminating or even limiting sugars and simple carbohydrates will further help with this. Maintaining adequate blood sugar levels will greatly help us manage stress, and can also improve mood issues, such as depression and anxiety.
Likewise, fruits and vegetables are filled with vitamins, minerals, and nutrients that our bodies and immune systems needs to function at its optimal level. They’re packed with vitamin c, zinc, bioflavonoids, and other things that are protective to us. Furthermore, eating fermented foods such as kafir, kombucha, and sauerkraut, for example, help build gut bacteria, and probiotics. This is helpful because not only will that help increase gut and immune defenses, but it also improves brain health. This is because, brain neurotransmitters (such as serotonin) are largely produced in the gut, therefore it will even further help manage mood, stress, and anxiety.
4- Social distancing does NOT meal isolation – at this time, more than ever, people need to reach out and connect to others. There are many creative ways to do that – I’ll share my favs!
-Zoom app (for those who don’t have iphones/facetime): can have multiple people on at once.
-House Party app– I LOVE this one! You can have multiple people on at once, and play games together. You can plan virtual games nights with your friends – and it’s a blast!
-Meetup app: this is an app that has events for almost any/all interests, and there’s a ton of them that have been moved to an online format. Whether you would like to learn or practice a new language, have a virtual coffee shop hangout, or even a virtual pub hangouts. There are also virtual trivia nights, paint nights: so are many options to explore in a fun and creative way.
5-Creativity/productivity/creative outlets: This is SO important right now. There is more than enough evidence out there that convey the importance on creative outlets to greatly improve our mental health. By expressing ourselves creatively, it activates parts of our brain which help release dopamine and serotonin, and generally make us feel happy, inspired, and free. It also
I would suggest any of the following quarantine friendly outlets…and have fun with them!
- Learn or re-learn the guitar, piano, flute, recorder or any instrument!
- Learn a new language: Youtube, Rossetta Stone, there are so many resources out there.
- Singing: have an online jamming party with your friends…have a few laughs along the way!
- Blogging: about anything, or whatever you’re passionate about – talk about it with the world!
- Start a book club – keep yourself interested and engaged with your group of friends.
- Work out videos: so many out there – also many virtual classes in Calgary to check out.
- Dance studios: Many studios in Calgary are still promoting online classes – for many styles!
- Make a vision board, or map our your 2, 3, or 5-year plans: focus on good things to come.
- Be productive in many ways: clean a room, closet, pantry etc..you’ll feel clear and productive.
10.Nostalgia helps: Revisit favorite movies, books, songs, shows, even blog/write about them!
- Virtual cooking class with your parents: ask your mom to finally teach you her skills!
- Screen time: As tempting as it is, limit the amount of time you allow for Netflix binges!
- Turn off the Covid-19 news: instead just update yourself to stay current 1-2x/day.
- Arts, crafts, and games: on that virtual call play some Charades, Pictionary, or Karaoke!
- Take a walk (at a distance), and listen to your favorite playlist or podcast!
- Volunteer opportunities: Meals on Wheels and Food bank need lots of help right now.
- Grow some plants, inside the house or outside, and find joy in watching them grow!
- Put on your best dressed attire, listen to some tunes-you’ll feel confident and self-assured!
- Have a bath with some essential oils (my favs are-ylang ylang, sweet orange, lemongrass).
- Virtual movie nights on Netflix: it allows you and your friends to watch movies together!
- Gratitude: write 2-3 good things a day, or about the little things you’re grateful for.
- Journal your feelings: feel what you feel right now, and this is a great outlet to express it.
- Try your hand at poetry! You might just be a poet, and well…not even know it! J
- ANYTHING that makes you feel happy, healthy, connected, grounded i.e. meditation, yoga.
- A lot of companies are opening up courses, resources, entertainment for FREE see below:
These are some of examples of free resources available to the public right now: it’s great for adults and kids alike. You can learn about the arts, humanities, higher education and more:
Free IV/league courses accessed to everyone virtually:
Museums and zoos: Virtual tours of popular museums, zoos and popular places of interest.
Musicals: You can now watch many well-known musicals from the comfort of your own home!
Audiobooks: Many authors have starting to roll out free access to many different books.
Podcast app: Use your podcast app on your phone for free: history, arts, culture, and more.
YouTube: Many free documentaries and history lessons to be found -just do a quick search!
At the end of the day, do whatever you can, on a daily basis to make yourself feel better throughout this time, and please know that we are here for you! We are still available via telemedicine (phone/video consults) to help with our patients health at this time, whether it be for consultations or even meal plans, please ask we want to help in any way that we can!
I cannot WAIT to get back into the clinic and work with you, when the time is right to do so; but in the meantime, please reach out and I’m happy to help you out with your health, virtually!
Stay healthy, happy, and safe!
-Dr. Alisha Rawji ND.
Amanda Delamer, MSc., PCC, CPCC
I’m guessing I’m not the only one who was in a bit of shock when it was announced that, to prevent further spread of COVID-19, schools would be closed indefinitely. A few things went through my mind: 1. We don’t have to be up as early tomorrow, so movie night it is!; 2. I don’t have to make lunches, hooray!; and 3. I’m sorry, what? And what does “indefinitely” mean? Then a sudden rush of something came over me as I realised that I will be responsible for the thing I fear most: homeschooling. Or rather, the patience that will be required to homeschool my three children. I know I have it in me, but wow, this will be a whole new experience.
I’m happy to report that after four days at home, all three children are still alive and well. Even more noteworthy, we are all thriving and smiling and laughing and processing – together.
In addition to an increase in caffeine consumption, here’s what has supported me and my family to thrive.
Listen to your inner voice
Over the years, I have become pretty good at listening to, and working with, my inner voice. It has taken a lot of practice, experimenting and learning – to trust myself and what my inner voice is saying in each moment – but I continue to experience a great deal of confidence in the choices I am making when I listen to it. And choices that leave me feeling better, more fulfilled, more satisfied and more at peace than if I hadn’t listened to my inner voice.
Whether you call it your spidey-sense, your gut, your intuition or your inner voice, we all have it. That thing that attempts to guide us in making choices that feel right for us in each moment. That leader within us that truly wants what is best for us. It doesn’t always seem black and white, what our inner voice is telling us, and that’s okay. It’s simply communicating with us all that is going on in our mind and in our heart, and what feels best for us in this moment. Trust it.
During this time of uncertainty and “new normal” I hear my inner voice saying things like “what a uniquely amazing time this is to be at home with all of my kids”, “you can create some pretty awesome activities to do with your kids”, “look at you getting outside with your kids for ‘gym’ every day, keep it up!”, and “This week, what does your schedule look like? What’s the plan? When are you with clients and when are you with the kids? Who do you need to ask for help?”, and “it’s okay to feel frustrated with the kids fighting again, what about creating a family agreement and talking to/asking the kids how we want to be and feel together?”
What is your inner voice saying to you?
Now, sometimes there may be a voice that doesn’t seem so supportive, or it’s disguising itself as being supportive. This is your saboteur, your gremlin, and while it can be something that helps us to grow (when we learn to work with it), it can create a whole lot of panic, insecurity and overwhelm. When we listen to this voice, we may find ourselves making choices that are not in line with what is most important to us.
Some clues that my saboteur, not my inner voice, is present – I hear things like “it’s impossible to schedule in clients and be home with your kids”, “Soccer is cancelled, how on earth are you going to keep up your fitness goals?!?”, or “How are we going to do this?!?!?!” Our saboteurs love coming out to play when fear is present. My saboteur usually presents itself when, if I dig deep, I’m afraid of not being good enough, not being liked, or missing out on something.
What is your saboteur saying to you?
Hint: When listening to and making choices from your inner voice, you will more often feel movement forward. When listening to your saboteur, you may often find yourself feeling stuck or overwhelmed.
Choose where you will put your focus
There are a ton of things currently out of our control, and many circumstances that are presenting themselves. No, we didn’t ask for them, but we do need to work with them.
Whether or not I can play soccer at the end of April, out of my control. Creating an exercise schedule for myself, in my control. Being able to visit my 95-year old grandmother at her assisted-living home, out of my control. Working with the staff at her residence to schedule in face-time calls with her, in my control.
What are the things within your control? What are things you have no control over? What happens if you make a plan that relates to those things you control?
It’s an uncertain time, and things are changing at a crazy pace. One week ago, schools were open, hockey and swimming lessons were on as usual, and I played two soccer games with my league. This week, nothing. I take it day by day. It helps me keep focused and allows a lot less room for anxiety.
Love and compassion
We are all processing, and we all process in our own way.
For me, I am really practicing more love and compassion at home. I notice that my kiddos are quite calm and engaged in the mornings, and then 1pm-ish comes. What on earth?!? They become different little humans. Love and compassion for me means not raising my voice with them, and instead (just as I am good at in the mornings) lowering my voice and talking calmly with them. This is all new to them too. They are processing so many feelings and thoughts, and that is sometimes going to result in a heated spat over who gets to wash their hands first.
Patience. With our family. With our colleagues. With that guy at the grocery store.
I very much appreciate that we are all experiencing these uncertain times differently, and we all have different circumstances to consider. Listen to your inner voice, focus on what is within your control, draw on love and compassion for yourself and others, and ask for help. We can do this.
Lets schedule in a sample session! You don’t have to process all that your inner voice is saying alone, lets process together. Book in for a complimentary sample session today, and discover how Coaching can support you to thrive. Call 403-452-6262 or email email@example.com.
Amanda is a self-awareness and fulfillment coach. Amanda coaches and supports people in living healthy, balanced and fulfilled lives. She coaches and honours the whole person – mind, body and spirit. Her clients experience fulfillment in all parts of their lives – health, family, relationships, career, etc. – and they value and appreciate that all parts of their lives are connected, and that we all have responsibility in and for the world around us. She lives in Calgary, Alberta, Canada with her loving husband and three inspiring children.